If You Don’t Want It, Don’t Claim It.

What are you identifying with?  Who are you identifying with? What, and who, are you seeing yourself and referring to yourself as?

As stated in my “about me” link, I’m a pretty transparent person, although starting this blog is an entirely new level of transparency for me. I’m going to take this time to share my personal experience that has lead me to operate in a new state of mind.

 For a long time I considered myself to be a single mother,  and identified with others who also considered themselves single.  Each time I had a major accomplishment, everyone who knows me also knows that I gave God all the glory.  But, I have to be honest, there was also a part of me that felt proud that I accomplished it as a single mother.  When people wanted to bless me, I accepted their blessing knowing much of the time (by their own words) that they were blessing me with thoughts and motives that considered the fact that I was a single mother.  That was no fault of their own.  It’s just the spirit that I was putting in the atmosphere and attracting.  What was in my heart was this: “I’m single.  If I wasn’t single, I could devote more time to my girls, I wouldn’t be as tired all the time, finances wouldn’t be so tight, we could travel more, I could work towards my dreams and goals without as much risk, I could devote more time to ministry, I’d have more freedom and flexibility….”


I can do all that now!  If I’m not at the point where I can travel freely with my girls just yet, it’s not because I’m single. It’s because I haven’t yet learned how to be creative enough to make it happen within my budget, or I haven’t realized the full power  that I have to call forth, attract, and/or create the finances, career, opportunities, that will allow me to do so.  If I want a lifestyle and career that allows me the flexibility I want, I can step out now if I wanted to. I would consider it to be very risky, and it would take lots of faith.  But people have done it, and so could I! Yes, I could do it…now!

In the natural, am I single with children? Yes, but no longer will I identify with it because I have a history of identifying my singleness with lack!  I am a woman of God in waiting for her God ordained King.  Yes, I do have three beautiful daughters whose father is very much in their lives, by the way.  But more importantly, I am an heir of God, so why should I consider myself to be lacking anything when I am a daughter of the Creator of All Things? Hallelujah!

In fact, I trust the God I serve so greatly, that I’m going to be bold enough in my faith to say that before God sends me my King, my girls and I will have made a practice of traveling, finances will be overflowing so much that I will be able to meet all of our needs and have so much running over that I’ll be able to effortlessly nurture my love for giving and financially pouring into the lives of others as well! I will have so much love and time left over after pouring into my girls, that I can devote the time that I want to mentor other young girls–guilt free.  BEFORE MY HUSBAND COMES, I WILL BE LIVING THE LIFE THAT I WANT TO LIVE, and still be young and vibrant enough to enjoy the fruits of marriage by the time he arrives!!! Hey hey!!! Yes, Lord!

And I don’t want people to look at me in awe because I did it as a single mother.  I want people to look in awe of the faithfulness of the God I serve!  When people bless me, I want them to bless me because they see the Power of God at work in my life and, as a result, want to be blessed just by blessing me.  When people see me, I want them to see the handiwork and Love of God–not the “single mother.”

Now, let me clarify. Is there anything wrong with singleness? Absolutely NOT!  There’s something wrong with viewing it as a state of lack. Our actions, what we speak, and  what we produce is a direct correlation to what’s in our hearts. Ask yourself something…WHAT IN YOUR LIFE IS A DIRECT CORRELATION TO WHAT’S IN YOUR HEART? What in your life do you no longer want, but are attaching yourself to, or identifying with–whether it be with your words, or within your heart? Whatever it is, STOP! If you don’t want it, don’t claim it.  Let’s make it happen together.  Praying for you. 😉

Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…”

Proverbs 4:23 “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”

Galatians 3:27-28 “For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one is Christ Jesus.  And if you are Christ’s then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”

1 Peter 2:9 ” But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.”

Romans 8:16-17 ” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs–heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ if indeed we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together.”

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